Dear Grace,
An old sorority sister of mine is getting married this Fall. Last Christmas, she called me to say that she was engaged and how excited she was. She quickly talked about wedding plans and that she would keep me posted. We aren’t the best of friends, we’ve had our share of drama but we still get along, although we are not super close.
Anyway, our mutual friend called me up and told me that she received their Save the Date…but that was a month ago!
Should I ask my friend if I’m invited to her wedding? This seems rude and awkward, just in case she’s changed her mind or something.

What should I do?!

From,

Left out in Los Angeles

Dear Left out,

The rule of thumb is to not confront someone on such a sensitive topic. Asking whether or not you are invited can be a little uncomfortable and seem immature.

However, since your friend did already discuss her wedding plan with you I think it is fair to contact her and bring it up. She will most likely ask you flat-out if you received your Save the Date.

If all else fails, ask your mutual friend to fish around for details. With scenarios like this there isn’t one great solution. Just follow your instincts and keep being nice. If she has a limited guest list, don’t take it personal,her guest list might be influenced by her parents or her future in-laws.

Hope all turns out well.

XOXO,

Grace

Just for fun: Check out Lazy Susan’s response but we warn you, don’t actually take her advice!

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Today, Social Grace answered a question from a girl who hadn’t received an STD (Save the Date) card from her friend despite being told about the engagement by the bride herself. While her answer was full of tact and sensitivity, Lazy Susan insisted on weighing in too. So, with much reluctance, we bring you Lazy Susan’s response:

Stop hoping and wishing. If you didn’t get a STD, then you’re not getting one. Instead of crying about it, get revenge. Here’s a few ways you can do it:

1. Call her out in a public arena, like facebook. After all her friends see what she did, she’ll be publicly humiliated. You could actually do it in a public place, but you’ll only have the satisfaction of a few moments. Facebook is forever.

2. Ask your girlfriend what date the bride-to-be is having her wedding and throw an even more awesome party. The more awesome it is, the more friends you’ll be able to attract away from her event.

3. Crash her bridal registry. Scour the internet and find her bridal registry (Macy’s, Target, Pottery Barn, Crate & Barrel are all good places to start) Then get out your credit card and buy as many things as you can. Instead of having it shipped to their place, ship it to your address. Then return the items to the store, but don’t update the registry. Boy, will she be disappointed when all the gifts she thought she was getting don’t make it to her doorstep.

EDITOR’S NOTE: Lazy Susan’s advice is purely for entertainment value. NEVER actually take her advice. For your best bet, see what Social Grace has to say!

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