Archive for March 11th, 2010

Ask Grace: A MOH’s Right to Choose!

By Social Grace

Dear Grace,

I was asked to be a Bridesmaid in my cousin’s wedding and then two weeks later my best friend asked me to be her Maid of Honor…on the same day! I want to be with my BFF but how do I choose and please everyone?

From,

Confused in Sacramento

Dear Confused,

You have to forget about the pacts you made in your youth and your family’s opinions and choose from your heart. If the thought of missing your BFF’s wedding breaks your heart, join her wedding party with absolutely no regrets!!

If your cousin feels at all slighted with your choice, explain to her that you will make it up to her. Maybe you can host a special Bridal Shower for your cousin or help her through the wedding planning process. Remind her that just because you are not present during her big day doesn’t mean you won’t be a source of support and help throughout her wedding experience.

Perhaps you will find as it gets closer to the wedding date that you will have the opportunity to go to both weddings. Did they specify what time of day their weddings will be?

In any case follow your instincts and remember to try and make both women feel special! Have fun!

XOXO,

Grace

Do you have a question for that need answering? E-mail me at askgrace@proposalmagazine.com.

Just for fun: Check out what Lazy Susan has to say. But be warned, do NOT take her advice!

Did you like this? Share it:

This entry was posted on March 11th, 2010 under ask grace, social grace.

Lazy Susan: A MOH’s right to choose!

By Lazy Susan

Today, Social Grace gave advice to a woman who was asked to be a bridesmaid for two weddings on the same day. While her answer was full of tact and sensitivity, Lazy Susan insisted on weighing in too. So, with much reluctance, we bring you Lazy Susan’s response:

Duh! You choose both of them because liquor isn’t cheap and isn’t getting cheaper, so when two of your loved ones have an open bar on the same day, you can’t turn down either offer. (Especially in this economy!)

But, Susan, you ask, how can I show up to the second wedding after I’ve been drinking all day at the first? Well, guess what? This day isn’t about you. In fact, no one’s even going to notice you. They’ll all be looking at the bride. Take that opportunity to get as crazy as you want to be.

If you absolutely must choose between the two (because of distance or whatnot), then get as much information about the amenities (i.e, menu, cute single men in attendance and of course – which is the prettiest dress). Then make your decision based on that and move on. If anyone questions you, just tell them to deal with it. A bridesmaid is just a step up from being hired help anyway.

EDITOR’S NOTE: Lazy Susan’s advice is purely for entertainment value. NEVER actually take her advice. For your best bet, see what Social Grace has to say!

Have a question for Social Grace (and Lazy Susan)? E-mail it to: askgrace@proposalmagazine.com.

Did you like this? Share it:

This entry was posted on March 11th, 2010 under social grace.

TIWH: March 11th

By Tia Ayers

March 11, 1968
Maureen O’Hara & General Charles F. Blair

O'Hara & Blair

She was a leading lady on the silver screen in such films as The Quiet Man and A Miracle on 34th Street. He was a famous aviator who made the first solo flight over the Arctic Ocean to the North Pole. Forty-two years ago today, they made their love official at a courthouse in the Virgin Islands.

Soon after Maureen O’Hara married General Charles F. Blair, she retired from acting, moved to the Virgin Islands and helped him manage a commuter sea place service in the Caribbean. The couple also owned and published a magazine called The Virgin Islander, in which she even wrote a monthly column.

They were married for ten years, until Blair’s tragic death in a plane crash in 1978. Although O’Hara was mourning his death, she kept his legacy alive by taking over their business.

To this day, O’Hara maintains that Blair is the love of her entire life. She told a reporter in 2004, “I was married to the most wonderful man in the world.”

Although their story is bittersweet, we feel a love as eternal as theirs deserves to be honored.

You can read more about O’Hara and her life with Blair in her memoir Tis Herself.

Did you like this? Share it:

This entry was posted on March 11th, 2010 under today in wedding history.