Dear Grace,

I’m a bride and my maids are making me crazy!! I’m getting married in three months and my Maid of Honor and one of my Bridesmaids both want to throw me my bachelorette party. Instead of working together they are creating a war: my MOH wants a big night out, my Bridesmaid wants to plan a spa day. Both options sound great to me but I just want them to figure this out on their own instead of putting me in the middle. This should be fun! My parents have been divorced since I was ten and even THEY are getting along for the festivities… why are my best friends fighting?! What can I do to stop this?

From,

Bride & her Maidzillas

Dear Bride,

What you have on your hands are two ladies who want to give you something very special and unique. Their hearts are in the right place but unfortunately they aren’t going about this the right way.

Stand up to your girls and tell them flat-out that you will not be their mediator. Remind them that “girl time” can be as simple as sitting around the living room with a bottle of wine, the only people making this an issue is them. If both of them go to the trouble to give you a party, so be it, but ask them not to talk about the other party as if it’s a competition.

If they want one big blow out event, perhaps they can combine the two together? Instead of a spa day have a spa afternoon: everyone gets mani’s and pedi’s and then it’s off to the club.

And remember… happiness and calmness really can rub off on people. If you are a happy, calm & confident bride hopefully your maids will follow suit.

Most of all, have fun! It sounds like your girls are very passionate and love you very much!

XOXO,

Grace

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